Sunday, August 24, 2008
Little Kids, Little Problems - Big Kids, Big Problems
My daughter calls me “Mama” when she’s feeling especially affectionate or especially upset. So when I picked up the phone at 6am Sunday morning and heard, “Mama?” I knew things were not OK. Elly is in Israel on a Taglit - Birthright* trip and her credit card had been frozen. Despite my calls to the US bank they couldn’t do anything that I asked, nor could they take a call from a cell phone - Catch 22. It had been four days of trying and I was finished. Time to call the big guns. Tali Lipschitz runs the Let’s Go Israel trip** for bay area teens; she’s Israeli and knows how to travel with American kids. I called her and explained the situation.
“OK,” she said, “I’ll call you back.” I waited. Fifteen minutes later the phone rang.
“Hi, Dawn,” came her cheery voice, “you just needed a little Israeli chutzpah.” She had contacted the trip organizer and arranged for them to receive money I would wire to Israel. She walked me through my end of it. DONE!
What does this have to do with interfaith?
My daughter is 22 years old. Mothers of 45 year olds have told me, “Your kids grow up but they are still your children. You will always care. You will always worry.”
Mothers and fathers need a network, a community. If you’re in an interfaith relationship you need a unique network, one that addresses the specific issues and events that will occur to you because you are in an interfaith relationship. You need someone who “gets it.” Someone who cuts through the verbiage, who sees the core issue – and “the issue” may have NOTHING to do with religion. You need someone to help you sort that out. Many of you have turned to me or one of my colleagues with your questions. I’m here for you - always - but like Tali, I hope to help you made a connection.
And what about making a connection?
It’s almost September, almost High Holidays, almost time to ask-
Will we go to services?
If we will, then where will we go?
Are we looking for a single event experience or an ongoing relationship?
Are we looking to be part of a community as a couple?
Will we have kids that we want to bring into a community?
Call me if you want to talk about any of this, or anything else that is on your mind.
Dawn
510-663-8350
*Taglit Birthright Israel is a trip for young Jewish adults up to age 26. It is free. Check the website for how to qualify. website at www.birthrightisrael.org
**Let’s Go Israel is a bay area trip for teens. About a hundred kids who are entering high school juniors go each year. Families from the East bay, Sacramento and Silicon Valley should call Tali about next summer’s trip at 510-839-2900 x255. Families from Sonoma, along the coast to Palo Alto should call Gabi at the Bureau of Jewish Education at 415-751-6983 x123. Teens from all over the bay area are accepted into the program. www.letsgoisrael.org